I feel so blessed to write this post to you today! And discussing about how we need to be the cheerleader in the lives of others...
Recently I had a friend come over that I hadn’t seen for a while. The conversation started out really well as we caught up on all the happenings that had taken place in one another lives since we had last seen each other. It was pleasant and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. That was until she began to complain about a mutual friend of ours and her success.
As she started to put this person down, I couldn’t help but shake my head and silence her talking. I said to her that I was truly surprised she would be so mean about this person and her husband upgrading their house, and receiving a pay rise. Let me just tell you, that catch up was cut short.
For the rest of the day, my heart was truly heavy and sad, because the first thing that came to mind was, Shouldn’t we be the cheerleaders in the lives of others?
There are many people I have come across, and you probably have too, where they just don’t seem to be happy for others. A bitterness or jealousy overtakes them when they see those around them pushing on ahead. I’ve heard it all , their gossiping and putting down of someone they know buying a new house, upgrading their car, starting a new career, having children, going on a holiday or making new friends. The list is endless. And instead of examining themselves and why they feel that way, they project it on to other people.
I’m not saying I have never done that, I have many flaws. For example, when I was younger, I was very hurt at those around me having babies, while I struggled to conceive. I became bitter and nit picked, I focused on their negatives and everything that wasn’t perfect about them. And boy was I convicted of my behaviour years later. After I gave that particular hurt to the Lord and repented, I began to get excited when my friends or family would come to me and tell me about the great news in their lives, and I mean a real genuine happiness over their blessings and the abundance God was giving them.
A big part of my change also came from an image of Jesus I had in my mind. I pictured him sitting in the throne room of Heaven and looking down on us. When things happened for the good in my life, I imagined Him smiling and clapping from his seat because He was so delighted to see me advancing. That picture has stayed with me. I thought, God is my biggest cheerleader, I want to copy the actions of my Heavenly Father.
One thing many people struggle with, is when their friends make new friends or their friends find a partner. They feel as if they have been left behind or replaced and their hurt or rejection causes them to put that friend under a microscope. But what they seem to be missing is that, the Father may have placed that new friend or partner into their life for a purpose, for the next step in His plan for them. It might be hard, but maybe you just have to thank God, and say, Lord, you know the plans for them, bless them and guide them. Because in that moment, God may be actually changing you also to go down the path He has set out for you.
I want you to realise cheering people on isn’t just for the great times. When they are struggling, be the one to shout hard and loud, you’ve got this! Get up girl, and keep going, God and I have your back! This is what encouragement and support are all about. You clap them on, hug them, rub their backs, bring up their positive points and gifts to the people you talk to, and walk right alongside them through the good times and the bad. Walk Christ like next to them. And don’t you want the people around you to see your happiness and support for them? I know I do! I want them to know that no matter where they are headed, whether our paths are going in two different directions, or even if we haven’t seen one another for years, I will always be cheering them on.
It says in Isaiah 49:16- 16 I have written your name on the palms of my hands. Your walls are never out of my sight.
Jesus loved us and showed us with His sacrifice and I believe when He sees us loving with all of our hearts, even when we are hurt, and lifting those up around us, He is pleased that His sacrifice was not for nothing. That by going to the cross for us, He gave us the opportunity to carry out His ministry on earth in reaching people.
So, my question for you today is, are you the cheerleader in the lives of those around you? Are you truly, genuinely happy for the great things that are happening to them? If not, then why? If you have found yourself speaking negatively, gossiping, putting others down or criticising others, then examine why you feel that way. Go to the Lord, and ask Him to renew your mind.
The greatest thing you could ever do for those around you, family, friends, your boss, the church, next door neighbour etc… is be their cheerleader! When you do that, you also shine the light of Jesus and please Him with your praising attitude. I promise you He is cheering you on also, xx.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.- Ephesians 49:12
I pray this post has blessed you, and that you get truly excited about how great our God is! And know how amazing you are, how special He has made you and the gift you have to lift others up!